Saturday, March 28, 2020

Divorce Rates Will Go Down After This Pandemic

We just read a great article in the Wall Street Journal by W. Bradford Wilcox, that focuses on how married couples tend to modify and enhance their true roles in times of global crises like the one we are all going through.

"...in times of trial and tribulation, most people—and most spouses—don’t become more self-centered, they become more other-centered, more cognizant of how much they need their family members to navigate difficult and dark times. In post-Covid-19 America, I’m confident that the family-first model of marriage will gain ground against the soul mate model."


You can read it here.



Friday, March 13, 2020

Coronavirus Quarantine

Today my head is overflowing with ideas on how to make the best of this voluntary quarantine.

We are living a Pandemic.

How can we make the best of it while following the recommended self quarantine? Five children, ages 13 thru 25, three active on online classes, four of us on remote work.

So how can we organize everything? Don’t go crazy and focus on personal growth for you and for your children. Looking to grow in generosity, self-discipline, patriotism, citizenship, charity, responsibility, fortitude, decision making, leadership, prudence, temperance. 

Take care of three main things:

First, your spiritual life: grow in inner peace and be able to protect that inner peace. Also, this pandemic coincides with lent, so we can start by offering all this to God as a prayer, leave all your worries in His hands and accept His will. Make sure to include your children and spouse. Offer to God the little things, like the inconveniences and set-backs of cancelled trips, cancelled meetings, cancelled concerts, cancelled tournaments and also, offer to God the big things that can go from getting sick yourself all the way to the death of a loved one.

Second, take care of your body/health, this includes having a healthy meal plan, preparing your body and your family to be in the best possible shape to be ready if the virus visits your home. Green juices, salads, broths, lots of water. Expose yourself to some sun for a little while. Download an exercise app, for running if you can run outside, for legs, abs, yoga, etc. Do a 30 day, 100 abs repetition challenge with the whole family, make it fun.  Keep social distance with your friends at all times.

Finally, take care of your brain study/work and prepare clean working stations with different purposes, some quiet spaces for quiet work and a different space for video conferences. If you are using a bedroom, make sure the closet doors are closed and that you made your bed, make the working area an enjoyable, clean, orderly place. Little kids should respect the silence needed for the important meeting video or conference call.  Make and extra effort to keep the noise down; don’t turn on the vacuum cleaner or the mixer, or the TV too loud while they all work.

If you do not have outside work obligations, you might want to use this time to learn something new, take an interesting online class, listen to an interesting podcast... my favorite is Jordan B. Peterson.

We are all in this together! It will all pass soon! Be patient and remember that the world needs us to be cheerful and healthy in these challenging times! Good luck!



Sunday, October 13, 2019

Freedom

It’s being a while since we last wrote… many things have happened.

Our children have grown, some of them have graduated from college and all of them are now working in one way or the other.

Our home is a more adult world, our youngest is 13 years old and our oldest is now 24. Serious life conversations at our dinner table, work challenges, work related international trips, more responsibilities. Our home is more orderly, our last toys have being donated, trophies are now in a box inside the storage room, clear rooms, many quiet hours.

Life has become difficult, adult world is harsh, international conflicts, conversations about socialism vs capitalism, they challenge our opinions, interesting conversations about the existence of God, international leaders and their ideas.

Now our children are more on their own, living in different countries and only one thing worries me: after all these years of parenting, teaching them virtues, order, obedience, sincerity, loyalty, responsibility, truthfulness; where I have no control at ALL is the correct use of their freedom.

If I look back it was always there, it has always been there, and is the one most important thing God gave us when he created us: our freedom. 

How are you educating your children to have a good use of their freedom? The only way is teaching them to always search for the truth… at a younger age it was about teaching the difference between right from wrong … then getting them to know God, then keeping a relationship with God, but then it comes a time when you may make them sit in the Chapel for an hour but if they don’t want to talk to God they wouldn’t do it… and I think, God would never want to have someone talking to him because someone said so.

Focus on teaching our children the correct use of their freedom at all times, so over the years they may search for the Truth in a good use of their freedom and pray and hope they will have their personal encounter with God.

Monday, June 4, 2018

Respect

In a world where insults and evident acts of disrespect are strewn all over most news media and virtually in all social media, teaching our children about respect is urgently necessary.
  • Respect is the most important virtue that our children should embrace. 
  • It must be engrained in them that in order to be respected, they have to respect others. 
  • Respect must be shown always, in all environments, virtual and in person.
  • Show respect in order to earn respect.

Saturday, October 21, 2017

"Children want to see their imperfect, dysfunctional parents dance in the kitchen..."


"Children want to see their imperfect, dysfunctional parents dance in the kitchen, say "I love you" when they get off the phone, pray together, kiss as they say goodbye and speak highly of each other. Those moments of affection provide assurance to our kids – the world isn't all bad. Things are going to be OK at home."



From a great article you can enjoy by clicking here.


Sunday, May 14, 2017

World's Toughest Job - Happy Mother's Day!

Check out this great interview for the world's toughest job...




Happy Mother's Day!

Monday, April 24, 2017

On Dating: Helping Our Children Find Mr. or Ms. Right - Part 5

[This is the fifth and final installment in a series of posts based on ideas, thoughts and inspirations we have read and collected on dating and that we have been trying to transmit to our teenagers and young adults since their pre-teen years]

The other's family will be your family...
It is very important to truly know his/her family, feel comfortable, loved and welcomed in his/her house, around his/her extended family, living and sharing their culture, food and traditions. You can get a good picture of how they are in a few weeks, you don't need years to find out that you are, or are not, meant to be for each other the rest of your lives.

Follow the right steps...
First meet the person, then talk about your and his/her life, show interest on the things he/she does, build a friendship, then create trust, understanding, sympathy. You then have a true relationship that allows you to share some more of your personal, intimate thoughts. After a prudent time, you commit and get engaged and then you seal that relationship for a lifetime with marriage, to love and serve him/her all of the days of your life. You share intimacy and have children, so they can be born on a place prepared to receive them, inside a family ready to take care of them.

Boys, be gentlemen...
Treat women with care, with respect. Don't send her by herself on an Uber or Lyft after a party for God's sake! Open the doors for her, bring her chocolates, flowers, surprise her.  Have good manners when eating and talking. Take good care of yourself, exercise, shower, perfume, deodorant - always! Admire your couple and never stop growing and learning as a person, feed your soul and pay attention to your spiritual growth. You should feel that she represents you, that the world stops when she arrives.

Girls, be ladies...
Demand respect and give respect, dress appropriately, laugh, be smart, take care of you appearance. Emphasize relationships based on the depth of a conversation, not only on the shallow base of the senses. Be elegant, move slowly, give the boys their place, admire your couple, be professional, keep growing and learning as a person, feed your soul and pay attention to your spiritual growth. You should feel that he represents you, that the world stops when he arrives.

Finally...
Life is short, so don't sell yourself cheap, aim high; you deserve the best and you are able to give the best and live a peaceful, joyful life, based on trust and respect.