Experts that studied college athletes and asked them what their parents said that made them feel great and brought them joy while playing sports, have made things incredibly simple for us parents with kids that participate in sports.
Based on psychological research, the three healthiest statements moms and dads can make as kids perform are:
Before the Competition:
I love you.
After the competition:
Did you have fun?
I’m proud of you.
I love you.
And, get ready for this, the six words that our kids want to hear us say the most:
"I love to watch you play"
This is genius! Memorize this for their next game!
Saturday, February 8, 2014
Wednesday, February 5, 2014
Don't allow them to just walk out the door and say I'll see you at such and such a time. They still should tell you where they are going and call in if their plans change.
Do allow some lead way on special occasions such as proms
Don't allow them to call half an hour before they are to be in to ask if they can sleep over at a friends. This is generally a red flag saying 'something is up'.
Do set a reasonable time for all involved. If you would like to get some sleep before midnight on a Friday evening, then set the time for 11 pm.
Don't get sucked into the 'what everyone else is allowed to do' conversation.